11 Things You Should Remind Yourself Of When You Wake UpElite Daily

11 Things You Should Remind Yourself Of When You Wake UpElite Daily.

11 Things You Should Remind Yourself Of When You Wake Up
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Everyone loves life. People may not love their lives in particular, but they do love the concept of life. We believe that everything and anything in life is possible. Unfortunately, we don’t always believe we hold those possibilities in our own hands.

The reality of it is that we do – we do live a life that has endless possibility. The only problem is that we choose to believe it otherwise. We choose to believe that we are incapable of living our lives the way that we want to live them.

We choose to accept our reality as it’s painted by those who took charge of their own. We don’t have to be complacent. We don’t have to fall into line. Why not stir things up a bit and live by your own rules?

1. Today can be a good day, but only if you make it so.

Why do we often feel so powerless? Because we convince ourselves that we are. We wait for things to be given to us – handouts. In life, there are no true handouts and the reality is that if you want something then you need to make it happen for yourself.

It all starts with today. Whether or not today is a good day doesn’t depend on the weather. It doesn’t depend on your “mood” (that’s also in your control).

It doesn’t depend on outside sources. If you want to have a pleasant and wonderful day then choose to have one. It’s all about your perception and what you allow yourself to believe.


2. Greatness is a lifestyle, not a race.

We all want to “achieve” greatness. But who ever said that greatness was an achievement? Greatness isn’t crossing over the finishing line – it’s the ability to fight the good fight day in and day out.

Greatness is strength, the strength to keep pushing and to keep living your life the way you want to live it. Greatness isn’t an end result. It’s a state of being. You don’t win great. You are great.


3. The fact that you haven’t yet given up is a success in itself.

It may give you little comfort to think about how you’re still waist deep in the struggle, but the truth is that you are one of the few people with the guts to keep at it. Most people give up before they even begin… but not you.

No, you wake up every day and get sh*t done. You crawl inch by inch against the current because you refuse to give up.

You refuse to accept failure. You refuse to listen to others when they tell you that you’re not good enough. You’re still in it. They’ve already dropped out. Who’s the loser?


4. The only things that you should do today are the things that you want to do today.

F*ck’em. F*ck’em all. People tell you that sometimes you have to do things that you don’t want to do – that’s bullsh*t. If you’re not doing what you want to be doing – every second of every day – then you’re living wrong.

Sure, not everything we do in life is extraordinarily pleasant, but if we are living right then we still want to be doing whatever it is that we’re doing. The trick is not to want to do things the easy way.


5. Your life is your design.

There are plenty of things in life that are out of our control, but don’t let this fool you into believing that your life as a whole is out of your control.

The reality is that the life you are living is almost entirely by your own design. You have made choices along the way that led you down the road you’re currently traveling.

Saying that your life is out of your control is lazy and cowardly – it’s what other people want you to believe so that they have an easier time getting what it is they want out of their lives.


6. The important people in your life deserve both respect and attention.

The fact is that most people just aren’t important. Nevertheless, we sometimes forget this, allowing the wrong people to take up too much space in our daily lives.

We meet assh*les, jerks and schmucks regularly – especially when you live in a highly populated area or work in a large company.

These individuals will try to get to you, will try to influence you and become a part of your life because they find theirs to be mundane and useless. They already poisoned their own lives and now they are looking to poison yours.


7. Most people are idiots – don’t let them frustrate you.

This one took me a long time to accept. You need to resist the urge to “help” others and show them that the way they are thinking is incorrect. The fact is that people never want to be wrong and never want to hear that they are wrong.

Moreover, idiots will argue their points regardless of how absurd their argument or how close-minded and ignorant they themselves are. You can’t help all the idiots in the world because there are too many of them.

The best thing that you can do, to minimize your own stress, is to learn to deal with their stupidity accordingly. Use it to your own benefit.


8. Happiness is more a decision than anything else.

It’s easy to fall under the illusion that our happiness is the result of our environment, a result of what happens to us in life.

This is the sort of thinking that you want to avoid at all costs. You can be happy, right this very moment, but it does take an effort.

It takes an effort to see the world in the way that you need to see it in order to appreciate the fact that you are living in it. To be happy is to be content and then being happy about the fact that you are content.


9. Either forgive and forget or forget and remove.

As mentioned before, most people are idiots, and even more people have no place in your life. You have to also keep in mind that people are egocentric and are always looking out for themselves first and foremost.

With that said, when one of these individuals does you wrong or offends you, which is bound to happen, be careful with how you respond. What you don’t want to do is dwell on the unpleasant.

What you ought to do is either forgive these individuals and forget the instance ever happened, or you forget how they crossed you and then you remove them from your life entirely.


10. True love is rare – don’t take it for granted.

This isn’t to say that understanding what you have when you still have it comes naturally – our minds like to always consider the possibility that the grass on the other side may be greener. Life isn’t about doing our best to constantly upgrade.

To live a happy and fulfilling life, we have to learn to appreciate what we have and love those that we have. If you fall in love then do your very best to stay that way; eventually it will, as all other things, end.

11. Never expect a tomorrow, but be thankful when tomorrow comes.

Look at how many people die every minute of every day and you’ll notice that waking up in the morning is a blessing. We don’t live in a peaceful world, but one laden with havoc and chaos. On top of all of this, accidents do happen and people die because of them.

Getting another day to breathe, to experience life, and to be happy is the greatest gift one can receive. We may not know what happens after we die, but we can’t forsake the possibility that death is truly the end. Live while you can.

8 Questions Powerful People Ask Themselves Every Day

8 Questions Powerful People Ask Themselves Every Day
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Powerful people, intelligent people, wise people, the most grounded people, all do one thing that most others don’t: They talk to themselves. They’re not crazy. In fact, they’re quite the opposite. Powerful individuals understand that nothing in their lives, themselves included, is stable continuously forever.

Things change. People change. The only way to stay atop of it all is to constantly talk to yourself, constantly ask yourself questions to understand not only what is going on, but who you have become and what you want. You have to ask yourself questions regularly, converse with yourself, if you want to lead a happy and healthy life.

All those individuals that can be truly dubbed powerful individuals ask themselves questions every day. Why? Because they need to in order to remember and in order to make adjustments to their goals and tactics when those answers change over time – which they always do. Here are eight questions you should all be asking yourselves:

1. Where is my focus for the day?

Most of us get up in the morning and do our best to delay the day at hand. We then crawl groggily out of our bedroom and go through the motions of getting ready and making it to work on time. Mornings, more often than not, are spent running through our routines, avoiding too much thinking because half our brain still wishes it was asleep.

Mornings are very important because they basically set the mood for the day. If you wobble around absentmindedly in the am, then you’re likely to continue the trend throughout the day. Get up in the morning and reassess yourself, your life and your focus and you will see a great improvement overtime.

The most successful and powerful individuals get up and remind themselves what their main focus is. Although we all have tons of tasks that need to be completed, there should be one overall focus for the day ahead of you.


2. What personal achievement do I want to achieve next?

Throughout our day, we run through a usually long list of things that we need to check off. And that’s great. But life isn’t all about working – it’s about doing and living, but not necessarily working.

What is it that you want to achieve next? Do you want to run a full marathon? Do you want to get your novel published? Maybe get incredibly fit? Achievements don’t only lie in the work that you do. They also lie in your life outside of work. Never stopping achieving and you’ll never stop living.


3. What habits can I avoid?

We all have bad habits. I often wonder why that is and I’ve narrowed it down two options: Either those bad habits feel incredibly good or the fact that they are bad makes us feel good – we know it’s bad, but we’re strong enough to handle it. Nevertheless, bad habits are bad habits and should therefore be avoided.

This, however, takes quite a bit of concentration. That’s why the most powerful people remind themselves that they have these poor habits and ask themselves regularly, which of those (if not all) they can avoid today. Avoid them for long enough and they no longer can be labeled as habits.


4. What mistakes should I have learned from?

We all make mistakes, but we don’t all learn from them. This is a huge problem because it leads us to make the same mistakes over and over again, with the same negative result. You can’t simply make mistakes, assume you’ve learned from them, and then move on. You have to remind yourself of those mistakes and remind yourself of the lessons you learned from them.

Don’t assume that because you’ve experienced the mishap and understand that it was a mistake that you’ve learned from it. Even if you did learn from them initially, without reminding yourself regularly, you’ll forget.


5. What new mistakes am I willing to make?

Mistakes are a part of the learning experience and therefore shouldn’t be avoided. But they shouldn’t be aimed for either. Powerful, intelligent individuals understand that mistakes are meant to be made.

They also understand that knowing what mistakes you are willing to make and what you are willing to risk will make your life a whole lot easier and less stressful. Mistakes don’t need to be surprises – they can and should be calculated risks.


6. How is my health level?

The more powerful and influential you are, the busier you tend to be. Constantly working leaves little time for anything else. Unfortunately, we can’t simply work and do nothing else because we have physical needs that need to be met. We need to find time to exercise. We need to find time to eat healthy.

We need to find time to sleep. These things cannot be avoided, but often are ignored or overlooked. If you’re a very busy individual then you’ll benefit from regularly checking in with yourself and examining your health level.

If you look and feel healthy, then you have nothing to worry about, but chances are, you could probably use an extra hour of sleep tonight, and a half-hour of cardio, or you could use to get a salad instead a sandwich. Stay on top of your health and your health won’t get in the way of your productivity and happiness.


7. Am I still on the right track?

Sometimes we get so entrenched in all that is going on in our lives that we lose sight of the road we were supposedly following. We get caught up with this or that and then find ourselves far from where we ought to be.

This is why you need to create checkpoints for yourself, based either on time or achievement, and make sure that you are still heading in the right direction. Life has a way of taking us up and throwing us off course. This is fine as long as we are smart enough to realize this and strong enough to push ourselves back on track.


8. Is my end goal still as important to me today as it was yesterday?

The hungrier you are for success, the more likely you are to ignore everything but your goals. However, it’s easy to get caught up with things and lose sight of what it is that we really want out of life. Many times our wants and preferences change. This should clearly affect our goals and aspirations, yet it doesn’t unless we come to conclude that our goals no longer line up with what we believe will make us happy.

Even worse is when we choose to ignore what we know because we’ve already spent so much time driving towards that one dream. As you live, you learn – you change – and therefore you must adjust. The most successful people aren’t always the happiest people, but then you can’t really call them successful, can you?

The truly successful manage to follow the dreams that will make them happy and then go and get them. If your perspective changes, then don’t be afraid to adjust your goals. Being stubborn and set in your ways always leads to misery.

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Everyone Seeks Freedom: The 5 Elements Of Space You Need To Be Comfortable In Life

Everyone Seeks Freedom: The 5 Elements Of Space You Need To Be Comfortable In Life
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Everyone seeks freedom, be it financial or simply time. If freedom is a “thing,” it is essentially a “space” — the gap that provides opportunities. Somewhere in the midst of society modernization, space was seen as waste at best and as useless at worst. If there is free time, we will do something to not waste it; if there is free space, then we need to put something there to fill it.

For any element, the atom is made up of 99 percent space with 1 percent from protons, neutrons and electrons. The fact that we need space is a reality that comes from within. In this case, space does not refer to areas with only air or vacuum, but Eastern philosophies of emptiness rather than the Western definition.

Like plants, we need space to grow. As evolved mammals, humans require emotional and mental space while some find spiritual space through religions and/or meditation. In modern society, technology became intrusive and invasive to the extent that there is little space in between us.

Physical spaces are easy to create but even easier to fill up. We love moving to bigger, but over time, we accumulate more and fill it. To train the mind to create physical spaces start by leaving an open shelf or section of a room empty on purpose. That spot will serve as a reminder as to why we need to create physical space.

White spaces and margins are known as breathing space in books and on websites. Similarly, in crowded areas where it can get stuffy, most of us will feel uncomfortable even though we are not agoraphobic. While some like the vast outdoors and others prefer shopping malls, all of us have the innate need to find sufficient breathing space and not feel suffocated.

Creative space is a must-have for writers, artists and designers. That’s why Google and design companies created specific areas for the purpose. The same holds true for the average individual — having a space allows for expressing emotions in a creative manner.

In relationships, especially with intimate partners, we need to allow each other space to grow. Everyone needs different amounts of emotional space — some need an hour daily while others are happy with an hour weekly. It is a human need to have emotional space with other people and even soul mates spend time away from each other. Partners in a healthy relationship create space between them to do their own things.

We cannot be with one person for extended period of time — even family or close friends. During confinement, when mothers spend extended amount of time with their newborns, they tend to be emotionally drained. A way to create emotional space with someone is to be away from him or her physically.

Creating mental space is more difficult because we have so many thoughts that travel through our brains daily. On top of these, we have our personal challenges, from family issues to work-related stress. But, when there is mental space, solutions and creativity flow in. While meditation is a great way to create mental space, it is not easy to dedicate 30 minutes to it daily. Although not the most optimal two-in-one method, some meditate while in the bathroom.

A good time to create mental space is right after waking up and before falling asleep. By clearing the mind purposefully for 5 minutes each time, it allows ideas and solutions to flow in. Another suitable time will be when taking public transport. Instead of playing with phone or listening to music, spend 5-10 minute in your own bubble. This can be challenging, as there is constant stimulation of our senses. Perhaps we can learn a little from French culture, by taking a 10-minute mental break during lunchtime.

In the technologically addicted society, we need to also create digital space, when we deliberately unplug. A good method for disconnecting regularly is to set your phone to “Do Not Disturb” mode from 9pm to 9am. If possible, avoiding the computer, TV and tablet for a few hours weekly can do wonders. The reason why we lack free time and creativity today is because we are addicted to constant stimulation of the mind and senses.

Many of us have schedules so tight that a delay of 15 minutes can affect the day or even the entire week. By allocating a 10-minute resting space between activities, you will improve your mood and work ethic because you will switch to the right frame of mind. It is the same reason why being 10 minutes early for an interview is considered to be ideal.

Spiritual space is a place to calm us down and ground us to the present moment. For some, it may be a church or temple, while for others, it can be in the bedroom. If nowhere else, a natural environment like the park or beach can help us to relax and rejuvenate almost instantly.

Travellers with wanderlust enjoy getaways as a spiritual space between present moment and reality back home. When we travel, the challenges and problems become distant while we enjoy the present moment in a new environment. This is a reason why many of us love to travel whenever we feel the need for a break.

When we create space for growth, movement and transition, it improves the overall flow in life. Even with challenges and daily hurdles, it feels more effortless when we have a sufficient space to maneuver, just like how much easier it is to walk along an empty street.

 

 

http://elitedaily.com/life/everyone-seeks-freedom-the-5-elements-of-space-you-need-to-be-comfortable-in-life/

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