Everyone Seeks Freedom: The 5 Elements Of Space You Need To Be Comfortable In Life

Everyone Seeks Freedom: The 5 Elements Of Space You Need To Be Comfortable In Life

Everyone seeks freedom, be it financial or simply time. If freedom is a “thing,” it is essentially a “space” — the gap that provides opportunities. Somewhere in the midst of society modernization, space was seen as waste at best and as useless at worst. If there is free time, we will do something to not waste it; if there is free space, then we need to put something there to fill it.

For any element, the atom is made up of 99 percent space with 1 percent from protons, neutrons and electrons. The fact that we need space is a reality that comes from within. In this case, space does not refer to areas with only air or vacuum, but Eastern philosophies of emptiness rather than the Western definition.

Like plants, we need space to grow. As evolved mammals, humans require emotional and mental space while some find spiritual space through religions and/or meditation. In modern society, technology became intrusive and invasive to the extent that there is little space in between us.

Physical spaces are easy to create but even easier to fill up. We love moving to bigger, but over time, we accumulate more and fill it. To train the mind to create physical spaces start by leaving an open shelf or section of a room empty on purpose. That spot will serve as a reminder as to why we need to create physical space.

White spaces and margins are known as breathing space in books and on websites. Similarly, in crowded areas where it can get stuffy, most of us will feel uncomfortable even though we are not agoraphobic. While some like the vast outdoors and others prefer shopping malls, all of us have the innate need to find sufficient breathing space and not feel suffocated.

Creative space is a must-have for writers, artists and designers. That’s why Google and design companies created specific areas for the purpose. The same holds true for the average individual — having a space allows for expressing emotions in a creative manner.

In relationships, especially with intimate partners, we need to allow each other space to grow. Everyone needs different amounts of emotional space — some need an hour daily while others are happy with an hour weekly. It is a human need to have emotional space with other people and even soul mates spend time away from each other. Partners in a healthy relationship create space between them to do their own things.

We cannot be with one person for extended period of time — even family or close friends. During confinement, when mothers spend extended amount of time with their newborns, they tend to be emotionally drained. A way to create emotional space with someone is to be away from him or her physically.

Creating mental space is more difficult because we have so many thoughts that travel through our brains daily. On top of these, we have our personal challenges, from family issues to work-related stress. But, when there is mental space, solutions and creativity flow in. While meditation is a great way to create mental space, it is not easy to dedicate 30 minutes to it daily. Although not the most optimal two-in-one method, some meditate while in the bathroom.

A good time to create mental space is right after waking up and before falling asleep. By clearing the mind purposefully for 5 minutes each time, it allows ideas and solutions to flow in. Another suitable time will be when taking public transport. Instead of playing with phone or listening to music, spend 5-10 minute in your own bubble. This can be challenging, as there is constant stimulation of our senses. Perhaps we can learn a little from French culture, by taking a 10-minute mental break during lunchtime.

In the technologically addicted society, we need to also create digital space, when we deliberately unplug. A good method for disconnecting regularly is to set your phone to “Do Not Disturb” mode from 9pm to 9am. If possible, avoiding the computer, TV and tablet for a few hours weekly can do wonders. The reason why we lack free time and creativity today is because we are addicted to constant stimulation of the mind and senses.

Many of us have schedules so tight that a delay of 15 minutes can affect the day or even the entire week. By allocating a 10-minute resting space between activities, you will improve your mood and work ethic because you will switch to the right frame of mind. It is the same reason why being 10 minutes early for an interview is considered to be ideal.

Spiritual space is a place to calm us down and ground us to the present moment. For some, it may be a church or temple, while for others, it can be in the bedroom. If nowhere else, a natural environment like the park or beach can help us to relax and rejuvenate almost instantly.

Travellers with wanderlust enjoy getaways as a spiritual space between present moment and reality back home. When we travel, the challenges and problems become distant while we enjoy the present moment in a new environment. This is a reason why many of us love to travel whenever we feel the need for a break.

When we create space for growth, movement and transition, it improves the overall flow in life. Even with challenges and daily hurdles, it feels more effortless when we have a sufficient space to maneuver, just like how much easier it is to walk along an empty street.




10 Empowering Phrases Every Woman Should Wear Proudly Across Her Forehead

10 Empowering Phrases Every Woman Should Wear Proudly Across Her Forehead | Elite Daily.

“There are certain words that every woman should embody. We should be known for carrying ourselves with our shoulders back, full of pride and confidence.

It’s easy to point out someone who is clearly not confident, who has his or her head pointed down, shoulders not straight and is constantly looking around as if paranoid about the surroundings.

Let’s revisit the short phrases and sentiments that every woman should wear proudly and embody.”

And, while you read, listen to this song I’ve been quite obsessed with lately:

Beyoncé – “JEALOUS” (Official Video) from Alexander Hammer on Vimeo.

1. Flawless: I woke up like this.

Beyoncé is is an inspiration for most women because she’s all in one. She’s beautiful, powerful, confident, radiant, independent and she owns everything she does. Ladies, believe in your flawless beauty and be comfortable in your skin.

Learn to love your body and appearance as much as you love your favorite junk food. Wake up in the morning and tell yourself that you’re flawless. Literally, say it to the mirror and watch your self-esteem skyrocket.

2. Respect.

As women, we all support different levels of self-respect. Some of us don’t have any at all and others don’t tolerate anything else but. Whether it’s respect that you have for yourself and your expectations and values or the respect that other human beings should have for you, remember who’s boss.

Set high standards for yourself and decide which people to let in, run over and wipe them out with your pride.

3. Miss Independent.

Everyone loves a self-sufficient, independent woman, right? Think of someone like this and how she may inspire you to have those same qualities. An independent woman has qualities that are self-made.

Learning to have this characteristic doesn’t come easily because it takes time to let yourself get used to the ways that are new. Strive to love yourself and those around you while still “doing you.” Do your own thing, follow your own dreams and don’t be dependent on other people — it’s sexy.

4. Don’t test me.

There are plenty of women who let men, peers, acquaintances and other random people run them over and get away with just about anything. Pushovers are completely miserable. So, figure out what gets under your skin most and then develop strategic ways in which you can approach the situation and the people in it with a powerful, yet positive, statement.

5. Classy.

Be classy, not trashy. You will see famous phrases all over the web, but it’s so true. There is nothing sexier than seeing a woman who is comfortable in her own skin, full of confidence, who walks like a rock star and is exceptionally classy. And when I say classy, I’m not referring to appearance, but how you carry your inner-self.  You never want to be the girl who everyone knows as the “trashy slut,” right? So, do yourself a favor: stay classy and glamorous.

6. Go-getter.

A “go-getter” is someone who is full of ambition, determination and motivation. This person is always has new things and creative ideas and wants to accomplish everything in a timely manner. Go after your dreams and what you want — it will all work out if you have this mindset.

7. Passionate.

This is so important in life and my number-one word. Be passionate about anything, everything, and anyone you love. Have a hobby, trend, dream and fantasy. Be passionate about it and get out to actually go do it!

Choose a career path that you are really passionate about and find something you truly love to do. It can be something not so big, but if it’s big to you, that’s all that really matters. If you love something enough to pour your heart, time, money and sweat into it, you’re hands-down passionate about it.

8. Confident.

Walking with your head high and not taking anything from anyone is not about being cocky and stuck up — it’s about confidence. Confidence means having the power to control your body language and owning it in a way that everyone notices.

9. Fearless.

Reach for the stars, dream huge and don’t be afraid to do something you have never done before. Chance are, you will regret it if you never experience it. So, do yourself a favor and overcome this fear of the unknown. Be totally fearless.

10. Power.

Whether you are powerful alone or you are considered to be a “power couple” with your significant other, it boils down to the way you embrace all of the above words. It’s a package deal because you’re tying all of the most important and admiring qualities of a person in one. Power is at the top of this pyramid.”

21 Ways You Should Take Advantage Of Your 20s

21 Ways You Should Take Advantage Of Your 20s | Thought Catalog.

21 Ways You Should Take Advantage Of Your 20s | Thought Catalog

1. Don’t feel the need to respond to every text message, phone call, and email the second it reaches you. Once upon a time, it took longer than a minute to reach someone. People used stamps and envelopes; they had answering machines they didn’t check for hours, sometimes days. No one will die if you don’t immediately respond to every message you receive.

2. Ask for what’s owed to you. Half the time, you’re not getting your needs met because you’re not making them known. Your employers, romantic interests, and friends are not going to read your mind and give you what you need unless you speak up.

21 Ways You Should Take Advantage Of Your 20s | Thought Catalog

3. Never turn down an open bar. Seek them out and make them a priority. Indulging in open bars when you’re older isn’t appropriate because a) people will think you have an alcohol problem and b) you’re supposed to have enough money to afford your own alcohol.

4. If you’re unhappy and someone offers you a way out, take it. You don’t owe your first job years of loyalty and your first-born; you don’t have to stay in your city just because you’re on a first-name basis with the bodega guy. Do what feels right; the initial fear will give way to excitement.

21 Ways You Should Take Advantage Of Your 20s | Thought Catalog

5. Take advantage of all the energy you have in your 20s. In your 30s and 40s, your body starts getting upset with you, when some 20-something babe is all, “Wanna race?” That’s not a concern when you’re in your 20s — don’t ever take it for granted.

6. Let your more successful friends pick up the check this time. Before you’re 30, it’s still okay to be work as a barista and not have your career path figured out. Save your cash and take up your lawyer-friend’s offer for dinner. Use the money you saved to buy more ramen.

7. Play a sport you played in elementary school. Kickball, dodgeball. There are leagues for these games now. Get on it.

8. Learn how to cook. Here’s an idea — instead of spending all your money on ridiculously marked-up restaurant food, save your money by buying non-processed WHOLE FOODS and LEARNING HOW TO MAKE A MEAL OF REAL FOOD. A meal of real food is not a box of Annie’s Organic Mac and Cheese — that’s PROCESSED FOOD. A meal is something like sauteed brussel sprouts with onions and pinto beans garnished with salt and pepper. You’ll thank yourself for learning how to cook when your metabolism catches up to you.

9. Keep making friends. Everyone complains that it’s hard to make friends after college, but we still manage to find new people to flirt with and date, right? It’s not that hard. You know yourself better than you ever have before, and your friends can finally reflect that. Don’t cling to old friends because it’s too frightening or ‘risky’ to make new ones.

10. Let your parents buy your plane ticket home. It can be trying to be stuck in a house with your family for a few days or a week, but vacations in your 20s can be hard to come by. Let them subsidize your trips home and do you as much as you can when you get there.

11. Stay up late. In your 20s, you’re all, “Let’s go to another bar!” “Who wants to eat at a diner?” “Have you guys seen the sun rise from the High Line?” “In this moment I swear we were infinite!” When you get older, this becomes, “What are you doing? Go home. Watch Parks and Rec and go to sleep. What is wrong with you, staying up all night? Who has time for that?” If you’re in your 20s, you do. You have all the time. Do it now and take advantage of how not tired you are. You think you’re crabby now when you stay up too late? You’ll never believe how terrible you feel when you do it in your 30s.

12. Savor those 20s hangovers. They are a gift from God so that you’ll always remember what your tolerance level is. Your hangover recovery time is like flippin’ Wolverine in your 20s. You wake up, feel like death, pull on some shades, gulp down coffee or maybe a bloody Mary and whine about your headache over brunch. Oh, boo hoo. When you’re older, every hangover is Apocalypse Freaking Now. You’re not making it to brunch. You’re not making it off your floor in a weeping puddle of regret.

13. Indulge in diner/ fast food at 4 a.m. This is considered depressing behavior once you become a real adult.


21 Ways You Should Take Advantage Of Your 20s | Thought Catalog

15. Do ‘unacceptable’ things to your hair. Dye it. Dread it. Shave only the left side of your head and give a crap if it grows back in a flattering manner (hint: it won’t). There’s no time but now.

16. Avoid Burning Man. Save it for your weird-Dad mid-life crisis.

17. Sit down, unplug, and read non-fiction. Do this daily. None of your peers are doing it. They’re playing video games and refreshing Facebook and Gmail chatting about nothing in particular. After a month you’ll be smarter than all of them.

18. Walk into Forever 21 and grab every single crappily-made floral dress available. Is every other girl on the street wearing it? Is it literally falling apart at the seams? Is it also actually five dollars? BUY IT IMMEDIATELY. When you get older, your clothing becomes all expensive blazers and tailored khakis and other pieces that won’t break while on your body. That will be a great day — the day when your closet starts to look respectable. Though those outfits are more expensive, they also last longer and look better on you. You will be a classy human ready to take on the future. But as long as you’re still in your 20s? You know — the demographic of Forever 21? Game on, stretchy black dress with pockets that lasts about a week. Game on.

19. Take road trips. Sitting in a car for days on end isn’t something your body was designed to do forever.

20. Don’t invest in things like window curtains or throw rugs or… Windex. You’re a young, social person who doesn’t have time for things like picture-framing and broom-sweeping. No one actually expects you to maintain a bed skirt or a duvet cover in your 20s, they’re the home decor equivalent of puppies/ children.

21. Go to/host theme parties. Once people age out of their 20s, no one’s trying to wear pajamas or Saran Wrap out of the house. The only theme parties that exist after your 20s are ‘Wedding,’ ‘Baby Shower,’ and ‘Funeral.’