8 Questions Powerful People Ask Themselves Every Day

8 Questions Powerful People Ask Themselves Every Day
via Elite Daily

Powerful people, intelligent people, wise people, the most grounded people, all do one thing that most others don’t: They talk to themselves. They’re not crazy. In fact, they’re quite the opposite. Powerful individuals understand that nothing in their lives, themselves included, is stable continuously forever.

Things change. People change. The only way to stay atop of it all is to constantly talk to yourself, constantly ask yourself questions to understand not only what is going on, but who you have become and what you want. You have to ask yourself questions regularly, converse with yourself, if you want to lead a happy and healthy life.

All those individuals that can be truly dubbed powerful individuals ask themselves questions every day. Why? Because they need to in order to remember and in order to make adjustments to their goals and tactics when those answers change over time – which they always do. Here are eight questions you should all be asking yourselves:

1. Where is my focus for the day?

Most of us get up in the morning and do our best to delay the day at hand. We then crawl groggily out of our bedroom and go through the motions of getting ready and making it to work on time. Mornings, more often than not, are spent running through our routines, avoiding too much thinking because half our brain still wishes it was asleep.

Mornings are very important because they basically set the mood for the day. If you wobble around absentmindedly in the am, then you’re likely to continue the trend throughout the day. Get up in the morning and reassess yourself, your life and your focus and you will see a great improvement overtime.

The most successful and powerful individuals get up and remind themselves what their main focus is. Although we all have tons of tasks that need to be completed, there should be one overall focus for the day ahead of you.

2. What personal achievement do I want to achieve next?

Throughout our day, we run through a usually long list of things that we need to check off. And that’s great. But life isn’t all about working – it’s about doing and living, but not necessarily working.

What is it that you want to achieve next? Do you want to run a full marathon? Do you want to get your novel published? Maybe get incredibly fit? Achievements don’t only lie in the work that you do. They also lie in your life outside of work. Never stopping achieving and you’ll never stop living.

3. What habits can I avoid?

We all have bad habits. I often wonder why that is and I’ve narrowed it down two options: Either those bad habits feel incredibly good or the fact that they are bad makes us feel good – we know it’s bad, but we’re strong enough to handle it. Nevertheless, bad habits are bad habits and should therefore be avoided.

This, however, takes quite a bit of concentration. That’s why the most powerful people remind themselves that they have these poor habits and ask themselves regularly, which of those (if not all) they can avoid today. Avoid them for long enough and they no longer can be labeled as habits.

4. What mistakes should I have learned from?

We all make mistakes, but we don’t all learn from them. This is a huge problem because it leads us to make the same mistakes over and over again, with the same negative result. You can’t simply make mistakes, assume you’ve learned from them, and then move on. You have to remind yourself of those mistakes and remind yourself of the lessons you learned from them.

Don’t assume that because you’ve experienced the mishap and understand that it was a mistake that you’ve learned from it. Even if you did learn from them initially, without reminding yourself regularly, you’ll forget.

5. What new mistakes am I willing to make?

Mistakes are a part of the learning experience and therefore shouldn’t be avoided. But they shouldn’t be aimed for either. Powerful, intelligent individuals understand that mistakes are meant to be made.

They also understand that knowing what mistakes you are willing to make and what you are willing to risk will make your life a whole lot easier and less stressful. Mistakes don’t need to be surprises – they can and should be calculated risks.

6. How is my health level?

The more powerful and influential you are, the busier you tend to be. Constantly working leaves little time for anything else. Unfortunately, we can’t simply work and do nothing else because we have physical needs that need to be met. We need to find time to exercise. We need to find time to eat healthy.

We need to find time to sleep. These things cannot be avoided, but often are ignored or overlooked. If you’re a very busy individual then you’ll benefit from regularly checking in with yourself and examining your health level.

If you look and feel healthy, then you have nothing to worry about, but chances are, you could probably use an extra hour of sleep tonight, and a half-hour of cardio, or you could use to get a salad instead a sandwich. Stay on top of your health and your health won’t get in the way of your productivity and happiness.

7. Am I still on the right track?

Sometimes we get so entrenched in all that is going on in our lives that we lose sight of the road we were supposedly following. We get caught up with this or that and then find ourselves far from where we ought to be.

This is why you need to create checkpoints for yourself, based either on time or achievement, and make sure that you are still heading in the right direction. Life has a way of taking us up and throwing us off course. This is fine as long as we are smart enough to realize this and strong enough to push ourselves back on track.

8. Is my end goal still as important to me today as it was yesterday?

The hungrier you are for success, the more likely you are to ignore everything but your goals. However, it’s easy to get caught up with things and lose sight of what it is that we really want out of life. Many times our wants and preferences change. This should clearly affect our goals and aspirations, yet it doesn’t unless we come to conclude that our goals no longer line up with what we believe will make us happy.

Even worse is when we choose to ignore what we know because we’ve already spent so much time driving towards that one dream. As you live, you learn – you change – and therefore you must adjust. The most successful people aren’t always the happiest people, but then you can’t really call them successful, can you?

The truly successful manage to follow the dreams that will make them happy and then go and get them. If your perspective changes, then don’t be afraid to adjust your goals. Being stubborn and set in your ways always leads to misery.

Photo via Everett Collection

24 Things I’ve Learned After Moving To Washington, DC

24 Things I’ve Learned After Moving To Washington, DC | Thought Catalog.

Here is a funny, yet true, list of things that people learn after moving to DC. I’ve put some commentary in red (and added some pictures) – but the article in it’s entirety is below!

24 Things I’ve Learned After Moving To Washington, DC
MAR. 18, 2014

1. Snow > the federal government. SO MANY SNOW DAYS

2. Coming from Boston, this place and its people are pretty damn friendly.

3. Coming from anywhere else, they’re rude as hell. not true!

4. The Washington Monument looks better covered in scaffolding.  especially at night

5. You’re never the smartest person in the room (and you don’t want to be).(never)

6. People will ask you what you do for a living before asking how you’re doing. … always!

7. If it weren’t for happy hour, I couldn’t afford to live here. thank you free receptions

8. Seriously, BOGO for alcohol is the best.

9. Competitive karaoke is a thing, and it’s awesome.

10. Donald Rumsfeld uses the self-checkout at CVS. He goes to the one by my office.

10b. (That is considered name-dropping in DC.)

11. Work hard, brunch harder. duh

12. Some French asshole put rotaries or traffic circles or whatever the hell they’re called all over the place. Worst. Idea. Ever.  YEP

13. Nonprofits are a business. Their product hopefully helps others, but it’s not a bunch of absentminded idealists in a room talking out of their ass.

14. It’s the gayest city in America. No, really.

15. Chinatown should just be called China Street or China Alley. Putting Chinese lettering on a Walgreens and a Chipotle doesn’t make a Chinatown.same with the Starbucks.  Not fooling anybody.

16. There’s a weird rivalry between the people of New York City and DC. It’s stronger than the Yankees and the Red Sox.

17. House of Cards is filmed mostly in Baltimore.

18. The metro looks nothing like it does in Scandal.

19. The humidity in the summer can make it feel like the devil is Frenching you everywhere. but it’s awesome

20. In addition to the Smithsonian and all of the historical landmarks, there’s a wax museum that has a bunch of presidents and celebrities you can grope.

21. Heavyset tourists will take Segway tours around the monuments. God bless America.

22. Bikers will ignore bike lanes and traffic laws. They’re like honey badgers on two wheels just not giving any fucks. and, pedistrians ignore walk signs… and crosswalks all together

23. If you’re using the escalators in the metro, walk on the left side and stand on the right. I’m looking at you, interns and conference-goers.

24. Washington, DC isn’t broken. Congress is. There are half a million people in this town who work very hard for nonprofits, private businesses, and government agencies. They support their families and great causes. They’re not broken. The people you elect and send here are.

 TC mark

10 Empowering Phrases Every Woman Should Wear Proudly Across Her Forehead

10 Empowering Phrases Every Woman Should Wear Proudly Across Her Forehead | Elite Daily.

“There are certain words that every woman should embody. We should be known for carrying ourselves with our shoulders back, full of pride and confidence.

It’s easy to point out someone who is clearly not confident, who has his or her head pointed down, shoulders not straight and is constantly looking around as if paranoid about the surroundings.

Let’s revisit the short phrases and sentiments that every woman should wear proudly and embody.”

And, while you read, listen to this song I’ve been quite obsessed with lately:

Beyoncé – “JEALOUS” (Official Video) from Alexander Hammer on Vimeo.

1. Flawless: I woke up like this.

Beyoncé is is an inspiration for most women because she’s all in one. She’s beautiful, powerful, confident, radiant, independent and she owns everything she does. Ladies, believe in your flawless beauty and be comfortable in your skin.

Learn to love your body and appearance as much as you love your favorite junk food. Wake up in the morning and tell yourself that you’re flawless. Literally, say it to the mirror and watch your self-esteem skyrocket.

2. Respect.

As women, we all support different levels of self-respect. Some of us don’t have any at all and others don’t tolerate anything else but. Whether it’s respect that you have for yourself and your expectations and values or the respect that other human beings should have for you, remember who’s boss.

Set high standards for yourself and decide which people to let in, run over and wipe them out with your pride.

3. Miss Independent.

Everyone loves a self-sufficient, independent woman, right? Think of someone like this and how she may inspire you to have those same qualities. An independent woman has qualities that are self-made.

Learning to have this characteristic doesn’t come easily because it takes time to let yourself get used to the ways that are new. Strive to love yourself and those around you while still “doing you.” Do your own thing, follow your own dreams and don’t be dependent on other people — it’s sexy.

4. Don’t test me.

There are plenty of women who let men, peers, acquaintances and other random people run them over and get away with just about anything. Pushovers are completely miserable. So, figure out what gets under your skin most and then develop strategic ways in which you can approach the situation and the people in it with a powerful, yet positive, statement.

5. Classy.

Be classy, not trashy. You will see famous phrases all over the web, but it’s so true. There is nothing sexier than seeing a woman who is comfortable in her own skin, full of confidence, who walks like a rock star and is exceptionally classy. And when I say classy, I’m not referring to appearance, but how you carry your inner-self.  You never want to be the girl who everyone knows as the “trashy slut,” right? So, do yourself a favor: stay classy and glamorous.

6. Go-getter.

A “go-getter” is someone who is full of ambition, determination and motivation. This person is always has new things and creative ideas and wants to accomplish everything in a timely manner. Go after your dreams and what you want — it will all work out if you have this mindset.

7. Passionate.

This is so important in life and my number-one word. Be passionate about anything, everything, and anyone you love. Have a hobby, trend, dream and fantasy. Be passionate about it and get out to actually go do it!

Choose a career path that you are really passionate about and find something you truly love to do. It can be something not so big, but if it’s big to you, that’s all that really matters. If you love something enough to pour your heart, time, money and sweat into it, you’re hands-down passionate about it.

8. Confident.

Walking with your head high and not taking anything from anyone is not about being cocky and stuck up — it’s about confidence. Confidence means having the power to control your body language and owning it in a way that everyone notices.

9. Fearless.

Reach for the stars, dream huge and don’t be afraid to do something you have never done before. Chance are, you will regret it if you never experience it. So, do yourself a favor and overcome this fear of the unknown. Be totally fearless.

10. Power.

Whether you are powerful alone or you are considered to be a “power couple” with your significant other, it boils down to the way you embrace all of the above words. It’s a package deal because you’re tying all of the most important and admiring qualities of a person in one. Power is at the top of this pyramid.”

First Barre Experience!

 lululemon athletica Georgetown

On Valentines day, Lululemon in Georgetown sponsored a complimentary barre/yoga class hosted this by Lava Barre. The class was intended to “use one’s own body weight to isolate, lift, tone and lengthen” muscles. It was set to a fun soundtrack of music – and as a bonus guests even got to take away a new lululemon mat! 

I would definitely recommend this sort of fitness class as a fun and unique supplement for traditional yoga. I enjoyed the different poses and the fluidity of the class.

For those who live in DC,  you’re in luck! Monday nights at 6:30pm similar classes are held at Lululemon Georgetown – “a weekly complimentary barre class hosted by Lava Barre. In this dynamic power hour”, the site mentions, “you will use your own body weight to isolate, lift, tone and lengthen your muscles. All you need is a mat.”


21 Ways You Should Take Advantage Of Your 20s

21 Ways You Should Take Advantage Of Your 20s | Thought Catalog.

21 Ways You Should Take Advantage Of Your 20s | Thought Catalog

1. Don’t feel the need to respond to every text message, phone call, and email the second it reaches you. Once upon a time, it took longer than a minute to reach someone. People used stamps and envelopes; they had answering machines they didn’t check for hours, sometimes days. No one will die if you don’t immediately respond to every message you receive.

2. Ask for what’s owed to you. Half the time, you’re not getting your needs met because you’re not making them known. Your employers, romantic interests, and friends are not going to read your mind and give you what you need unless you speak up.

21 Ways You Should Take Advantage Of Your 20s | Thought Catalog

3. Never turn down an open bar. Seek them out and make them a priority. Indulging in open bars when you’re older isn’t appropriate because a) people will think you have an alcohol problem and b) you’re supposed to have enough money to afford your own alcohol.

4. If you’re unhappy and someone offers you a way out, take it. You don’t owe your first job years of loyalty and your first-born; you don’t have to stay in your city just because you’re on a first-name basis with the bodega guy. Do what feels right; the initial fear will give way to excitement.

21 Ways You Should Take Advantage Of Your 20s | Thought Catalog

5. Take advantage of all the energy you have in your 20s. In your 30s and 40s, your body starts getting upset with you, when some 20-something babe is all, “Wanna race?” That’s not a concern when you’re in your 20s — don’t ever take it for granted.

6. Let your more successful friends pick up the check this time. Before you’re 30, it’s still okay to be work as a barista and not have your career path figured out. Save your cash and take up your lawyer-friend’s offer for dinner. Use the money you saved to buy more ramen.

7. Play a sport you played in elementary school. Kickball, dodgeball. There are leagues for these games now. Get on it.

8. Learn how to cook. Here’s an idea — instead of spending all your money on ridiculously marked-up restaurant food, save your money by buying non-processed WHOLE FOODS and LEARNING HOW TO MAKE A MEAL OF REAL FOOD. A meal of real food is not a box of Annie’s Organic Mac and Cheese — that’s PROCESSED FOOD. A meal is something like sauteed brussel sprouts with onions and pinto beans garnished with salt and pepper. You’ll thank yourself for learning how to cook when your metabolism catches up to you.

9. Keep making friends. Everyone complains that it’s hard to make friends after college, but we still manage to find new people to flirt with and date, right? It’s not that hard. You know yourself better than you ever have before, and your friends can finally reflect that. Don’t cling to old friends because it’s too frightening or ‘risky’ to make new ones.

10. Let your parents buy your plane ticket home. It can be trying to be stuck in a house with your family for a few days or a week, but vacations in your 20s can be hard to come by. Let them subsidize your trips home and do you as much as you can when you get there.

11. Stay up late. In your 20s, you’re all, “Let’s go to another bar!” “Who wants to eat at a diner?” “Have you guys seen the sun rise from the High Line?” “In this moment I swear we were infinite!” When you get older, this becomes, “What are you doing? Go home. Watch Parks and Rec and go to sleep. What is wrong with you, staying up all night? Who has time for that?” If you’re in your 20s, you do. You have all the time. Do it now and take advantage of how not tired you are. You think you’re crabby now when you stay up too late? You’ll never believe how terrible you feel when you do it in your 30s.

12. Savor those 20s hangovers. They are a gift from God so that you’ll always remember what your tolerance level is. Your hangover recovery time is like flippin’ Wolverine in your 20s. You wake up, feel like death, pull on some shades, gulp down coffee or maybe a bloody Mary and whine about your headache over brunch. Oh, boo hoo. When you’re older, every hangover is Apocalypse Freaking Now. You’re not making it to brunch. You’re not making it off your floor in a weeping puddle of regret.

13. Indulge in diner/ fast food at 4 a.m. This is considered depressing behavior once you become a real adult.


21 Ways You Should Take Advantage Of Your 20s | Thought Catalog

15. Do ‘unacceptable’ things to your hair. Dye it. Dread it. Shave only the left side of your head and give a crap if it grows back in a flattering manner (hint: it won’t). There’s no time but now.

16. Avoid Burning Man. Save it for your weird-Dad mid-life crisis.

17. Sit down, unplug, and read non-fiction. Do this daily. None of your peers are doing it. They’re playing video games and refreshing Facebook and Gmail chatting about nothing in particular. After a month you’ll be smarter than all of them.

18. Walk into Forever 21 and grab every single crappily-made floral dress available. Is every other girl on the street wearing it? Is it literally falling apart at the seams? Is it also actually five dollars? BUY IT IMMEDIATELY. When you get older, your clothing becomes all expensive blazers and tailored khakis and other pieces that won’t break while on your body. That will be a great day — the day when your closet starts to look respectable. Though those outfits are more expensive, they also last longer and look better on you. You will be a classy human ready to take on the future. But as long as you’re still in your 20s? You know — the demographic of Forever 21? Game on, stretchy black dress with pockets that lasts about a week. Game on.

19. Take road trips. Sitting in a car for days on end isn’t something your body was designed to do forever.

20. Don’t invest in things like window curtains or throw rugs or… Windex. You’re a young, social person who doesn’t have time for things like picture-framing and broom-sweeping. No one actually expects you to maintain a bed skirt or a duvet cover in your 20s, they’re the home decor equivalent of puppies/ children.

21. Go to/host theme parties. Once people age out of their 20s, no one’s trying to wear pajamas or Saran Wrap out of the house. The only theme parties that exist after your 20s are ‘Wedding,’ ‘Baby Shower,’ and ‘Funeral.’

How Chipotle Changed American Fast Food Forever | Fast Company | Business + Innovation

How Chipotle Changed American Fast Food Forever | Fast Company | Business + Innovation


“Chipotle restaurants don’t even have freezers. All of Chipotle’s ingredients are delivered fresh. After the company bought hundreds of labor-saving onion-slicing machines, Ells ordered that onions go back to being hand-cut because he felt that made them taste better. Machine-cutting had left the onions a little dried out.”

via How Chipotle Changed American Fast Food Forever | Fast Company | Business + Innovation.

New York Bans Boozy Brunches

Ah, brunch. A favorite weekend past-time of mine. The restaurants in DC offer many different types of brunch in addition to a classic, traditional meal, such as bottomless food, bottomless drink, prix-fixe, and others.

My go-to, favorite brunch deals come from the Richard Sandoval restaurants which include Masa 14, El Centro, and Zengo.

Each offers a similar bottomless food AND drink menu, which always makes everybody in the group happy.  Masa 14 “serves colorful Latin-Asian cuisine to brunch-goers on both Saturday and Sunday” and even has a heated (if necessary) patio to dine on (see picture)

Washington City Paper gave first place honors to Masa 14 for ‘Best Brunch 2012”.

Unfortunately for my brunch-loving friends in New York, who enjoy similar options, their weekend plans may soon be changing.

“The NYC Hospitality Alliance sent out an alert Monday to its member restaurants reminding them of a  prohibition  against “selling, serving, delivering or offering to patrons an unlimited number of drinks during any set period of time for a fixed price,” writes Evan Bernick of Heritage.

Places in New York that are similar to Masa 14 are affected by this prohibition, due to their option of a prix fixe brunch which includes an unlimited selection of brunch drinks “full of seasonal flavor”.

The previously mentioned Heritage article continues,

“Is the State Liquor Authority seriously enforcing this prohibition? Unfortunately, the answer is “yes.” The New York Post reports that Heath St. Clair, who owns an Australian burger joint in the East Village called The Sunburnt Cow, said he used to offer unlimited mimosas and Fosters beer over a 90 minute span– before his business was investigated by the SLA. Following this investigation by the fun police, he now says, “We do not offer an unlimited brunch.”

“As anyone who has ever consumed multiple mimosas at brunch knows, unlimited drinks are never actually unlimited. One can only handle so many of them, and restaurant owners are well aware of this. “We only serve a person maybe four or five drinks,” St. Clair told the Post.“People get buzzed, they get happy, and they feel like they didn’t pay for it. We’d go broke if we actually gave people unlimited drinks.”

“Is this really necessary? New York already prohibits disorderly conduct and drunk driving. So long as there is a designated driver present, what’s the harm in offering incentives to customers to come in and have a good time? What’s next? Banning happy hours and Ladies’ Night?

Bernick concludes by presenting the idea that brunch-goers “can take comfort, perhaps, that laws that are so at odds with the common sense of the community do not often last long. But it would be even better if the authorities immediately lifted the burden of this uncommonly silly regulation by getting rid of it.”

Read the full text of Heritage’s post: First Big Gulp, Now Bottomless Bloody Marys: New York Bans Boozy Brunches, published February 26th.

Here’s to hoping that New York restaurants find a way to fight back and that this idea does not spread to DC anytime soon.


Ben and Jerry’s has always been one of my favorite brands. They recently reminded me why.

From the LA Times:

Ben & Jerry’s is known for its unconventional ice cream flavors, but now it’s attempting to reshape the way we eat the frozen treat. The Vermont-based brand has introduced four new flavors, and each one has all the elements of an ice cream sundae. 

Borrowing from its Karamel Sutra flavor, which features a core of soft caramel, all four of the new flavors, dubbed the “core” line, include two ice creams, separated by a sweet and gooey streak down the middle.

The four new flavors include Hazed & Confused, with chocolate and hazelnut ice creams with fudge chips and a hazelnut fudge core; That’s My Jam, with raspberry and chocolate ice creams with fudge chips and a raspberry core; Peanut Butter Fudge, with chocolate and peanut butter ice creams with miniature peanut butter cups and a peanut butter fudge core; and Salted Caramel with sweet cream ice cream, blonde brownies and a salty caramel core.

Anyone else thinking about taking a spoon and scooping out the entire core of caramel?

The pints are also the brand’s first line of ice creams to be 100% fair-trade certified and made with non-GMO sourced ingredients.

Priced at $4.39, all four flavors are available at stores nationwide. The brand also plans on adding handmade core sundaes with a core of hot fudge or caramel between two ice cream flavors to its Ben & Jerry’s Scoop Shops in the spring.


Elite Daily: Why Every Girl Should Strive To Be Like Claire Underwood From ‘House Of Cards’

Why Every Girl Should Strive To Be Like Claire Underwood From ‘House Of Cards’

Claire Underwood

House of Cards season two recently came out – and although I have not made it all the way through (it’s intense!) I always find Claire’s character fascinating. Living in DC, I see many driven, powerful, successful women accomplishing their goals and living their dreams everyday.

This article is an interesting take on Claire, providing some unique advice for women who strive to be like her.

11 Things You Should Remind Yourself Of When You Wake UpElite Daily

11 Things You Should Remind Yourself Of When You Wake UpElite Daily.

11 Things You Should Remind Yourself Of When You Wake Up

Everyone loves life. People may not love their lives in particular, but they do love the concept of life. We believe that everything and anything in life is possible. Unfortunately, we don’t always believe we hold those possibilities in our own hands.

The reality of it is that we do – we do live a life that has endless possibility. The only problem is that we choose to believe it otherwise. We choose to believe that we are incapable of living our lives the way that we want to live them.

We choose to accept our reality as it’s painted by those who took charge of their own. We don’t have to be complacent. We don’t have to fall into line. Why not stir things up a bit and live by your own rules?

1. Today can be a good day, but only if you make it so.

Why do we often feel so powerless? Because we convince ourselves that we are. We wait for things to be given to us – handouts. In life, there are no true handouts and the reality is that if you want something then you need to make it happen for yourself.

It all starts with today. Whether or not today is a good day doesn’t depend on the weather. It doesn’t depend on your “mood” (that’s also in your control).

It doesn’t depend on outside sources. If you want to have a pleasant and wonderful day then choose to have one. It’s all about your perception and what you allow yourself to believe.

2. Greatness is a lifestyle, not a race.

We all want to “achieve” greatness. But who ever said that greatness was an achievement? Greatness isn’t crossing over the finishing line – it’s the ability to fight the good fight day in and day out.

Greatness is strength, the strength to keep pushing and to keep living your life the way you want to live it. Greatness isn’t an end result. It’s a state of being. You don’t win great. You are great.

3. The fact that you haven’t yet given up is a success in itself.

It may give you little comfort to think about how you’re still waist deep in the struggle, but the truth is that you are one of the few people with the guts to keep at it. Most people give up before they even begin… but not you.

No, you wake up every day and get sh*t done. You crawl inch by inch against the current because you refuse to give up.

You refuse to accept failure. You refuse to listen to others when they tell you that you’re not good enough. You’re still in it. They’ve already dropped out. Who’s the loser?

4. The only things that you should do today are the things that you want to do today.

F*ck’em. F*ck’em all. People tell you that sometimes you have to do things that you don’t want to do – that’s bullsh*t. If you’re not doing what you want to be doing – every second of every day – then you’re living wrong.

Sure, not everything we do in life is extraordinarily pleasant, but if we are living right then we still want to be doing whatever it is that we’re doing. The trick is not to want to do things the easy way.

5. Your life is your design.

There are plenty of things in life that are out of our control, but don’t let this fool you into believing that your life as a whole is out of your control.

The reality is that the life you are living is almost entirely by your own design. You have made choices along the way that led you down the road you’re currently traveling.

Saying that your life is out of your control is lazy and cowardly – it’s what other people want you to believe so that they have an easier time getting what it is they want out of their lives.

6. The important people in your life deserve both respect and attention.

The fact is that most people just aren’t important. Nevertheless, we sometimes forget this, allowing the wrong people to take up too much space in our daily lives.

We meet assh*les, jerks and schmucks regularly – especially when you live in a highly populated area or work in a large company.

These individuals will try to get to you, will try to influence you and become a part of your life because they find theirs to be mundane and useless. They already poisoned their own lives and now they are looking to poison yours.

7. Most people are idiots – don’t let them frustrate you.

This one took me a long time to accept. You need to resist the urge to “help” others and show them that the way they are thinking is incorrect. The fact is that people never want to be wrong and never want to hear that they are wrong.

Moreover, idiots will argue their points regardless of how absurd their argument or how close-minded and ignorant they themselves are. You can’t help all the idiots in the world because there are too many of them.

The best thing that you can do, to minimize your own stress, is to learn to deal with their stupidity accordingly. Use it to your own benefit.

8. Happiness is more a decision than anything else.

It’s easy to fall under the illusion that our happiness is the result of our environment, a result of what happens to us in life.

This is the sort of thinking that you want to avoid at all costs. You can be happy, right this very moment, but it does take an effort.

It takes an effort to see the world in the way that you need to see it in order to appreciate the fact that you are living in it. To be happy is to be content and then being happy about the fact that you are content.

9. Either forgive and forget or forget and remove.

As mentioned before, most people are idiots, and even more people have no place in your life. You have to also keep in mind that people are egocentric and are always looking out for themselves first and foremost.

With that said, when one of these individuals does you wrong or offends you, which is bound to happen, be careful with how you respond. What you don’t want to do is dwell on the unpleasant.

What you ought to do is either forgive these individuals and forget the instance ever happened, or you forget how they crossed you and then you remove them from your life entirely.

10. True love is rare – don’t take it for granted.

This isn’t to say that understanding what you have when you still have it comes naturally – our minds like to always consider the possibility that the grass on the other side may be greener. Life isn’t about doing our best to constantly upgrade.

To live a happy and fulfilling life, we have to learn to appreciate what we have and love those that we have. If you fall in love then do your very best to stay that way; eventually it will, as all other things, end.

11. Never expect a tomorrow, but be thankful when tomorrow comes.

Look at how many people die every minute of every day and you’ll notice that waking up in the morning is a blessing. We don’t live in a peaceful world, but one laden with havoc and chaos. On top of all of this, accidents do happen and people die because of them.

Getting another day to breathe, to experience life, and to be happy is the greatest gift one can receive. We may not know what happens after we die, but we can’t forsake the possibility that death is truly the end. Live while you can.

Everyone Seeks Freedom: The 5 Elements Of Space You Need To Be Comfortable In Life

Everyone Seeks Freedom: The 5 Elements Of Space You Need To Be Comfortable In Life

Everyone seeks freedom, be it financial or simply time. If freedom is a “thing,” it is essentially a “space” — the gap that provides opportunities. Somewhere in the midst of society modernization, space was seen as waste at best and as useless at worst. If there is free time, we will do something to not waste it; if there is free space, then we need to put something there to fill it.

For any element, the atom is made up of 99 percent space with 1 percent from protons, neutrons and electrons. The fact that we need space is a reality that comes from within. In this case, space does not refer to areas with only air or vacuum, but Eastern philosophies of emptiness rather than the Western definition.

Like plants, we need space to grow. As evolved mammals, humans require emotional and mental space while some find spiritual space through religions and/or meditation. In modern society, technology became intrusive and invasive to the extent that there is little space in between us.

Physical spaces are easy to create but even easier to fill up. We love moving to bigger, but over time, we accumulate more and fill it. To train the mind to create physical spaces start by leaving an open shelf or section of a room empty on purpose. That spot will serve as a reminder as to why we need to create physical space.

White spaces and margins are known as breathing space in books and on websites. Similarly, in crowded areas where it can get stuffy, most of us will feel uncomfortable even though we are not agoraphobic. While some like the vast outdoors and others prefer shopping malls, all of us have the innate need to find sufficient breathing space and not feel suffocated.

Creative space is a must-have for writers, artists and designers. That’s why Google and design companies created specific areas for the purpose. The same holds true for the average individual — having a space allows for expressing emotions in a creative manner.

In relationships, especially with intimate partners, we need to allow each other space to grow. Everyone needs different amounts of emotional space — some need an hour daily while others are happy with an hour weekly. It is a human need to have emotional space with other people and even soul mates spend time away from each other. Partners in a healthy relationship create space between them to do their own things.

We cannot be with one person for extended period of time — even family or close friends. During confinement, when mothers spend extended amount of time with their newborns, they tend to be emotionally drained. A way to create emotional space with someone is to be away from him or her physically.

Creating mental space is more difficult because we have so many thoughts that travel through our brains daily. On top of these, we have our personal challenges, from family issues to work-related stress. But, when there is mental space, solutions and creativity flow in. While meditation is a great way to create mental space, it is not easy to dedicate 30 minutes to it daily. Although not the most optimal two-in-one method, some meditate while in the bathroom.

A good time to create mental space is right after waking up and before falling asleep. By clearing the mind purposefully for 5 minutes each time, it allows ideas and solutions to flow in. Another suitable time will be when taking public transport. Instead of playing with phone or listening to music, spend 5-10 minute in your own bubble. This can be challenging, as there is constant stimulation of our senses. Perhaps we can learn a little from French culture, by taking a 10-minute mental break during lunchtime.

In the technologically addicted society, we need to also create digital space, when we deliberately unplug. A good method for disconnecting regularly is to set your phone to “Do Not Disturb” mode from 9pm to 9am. If possible, avoiding the computer, TV and tablet for a few hours weekly can do wonders. The reason why we lack free time and creativity today is because we are addicted to constant stimulation of the mind and senses.

Many of us have schedules so tight that a delay of 15 minutes can affect the day or even the entire week. By allocating a 10-minute resting space between activities, you will improve your mood and work ethic because you will switch to the right frame of mind. It is the same reason why being 10 minutes early for an interview is considered to be ideal.

Spiritual space is a place to calm us down and ground us to the present moment. For some, it may be a church or temple, while for others, it can be in the bedroom. If nowhere else, a natural environment like the park or beach can help us to relax and rejuvenate almost instantly.

Travellers with wanderlust enjoy getaways as a spiritual space between present moment and reality back home. When we travel, the challenges and problems become distant while we enjoy the present moment in a new environment. This is a reason why many of us love to travel whenever we feel the need for a break.

When we create space for growth, movement and transition, it improves the overall flow in life. Even with challenges and daily hurdles, it feels more effortless when we have a sufficient space to maneuver, just like how much easier it is to walk along an empty street.





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“Highly sensitive people are too often perceived as weaklings or damaged goods. To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the trademark of the truly alive and compassionate. It is not the empath who is broken, it is society that has become dysfunctional and emotionally disabled. There is no shame in expressing your authentic feelings. Those who are at times described as being a ‘hot mess’ or having ‘too many issues’ are the very fabric of what keeps the dream alive for a more caring, humane world. Never be ashamed to let your tears shine a light in this world.”